ADDICTION

AD-DIC-TION  is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance or engages in an activity that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life and responsibilities.

This is what google has to say about ADDICTION.

In hindi addiction is called as AADAT (singing ab toh aadat se hau mujko song in head).

Just for the record addiction is also called as LATH in hindi (now you know whom to imagine)

Most of the times aadat/addiction/lath is looked as something BAD.

I have heard people saying many times ‘dude you are addicted to drugs’, ‘bhai tujhe daaru ke gandi aadat hogayee hai’. ‘

It is always associated to things which we are not suppose to do or should not do it.

But some addictions are different these addictions are not related to things or habits but to MEMORIES, TIME, PLACE & PEOPLE.

And this is quiet involuntary and unplanned, it’s like these addictions were waiting for you to get attached , but you realize the importance only at the later stage. These addictions are very personal, private and situation oriented.

Sometimes you try to modify them and sometimes you try to recreate it but nothing is able to replace the first time experience and in the process you are getting more addicted to it.

I have read somewhere when we do drugs our brain releases a certain type of chemical which give us the kick and same chemical is released when you revisit a particular memory, think about that time , remembering the place & missing that person…going through all this also gives you high.

These are also therapeutic, it will uplift your mood, make you feel happy and you will be smiling. These are good for your health also .

So lets start:-

MEMORY

In psychology memory is the process in which the information is encoded, stored and retrieved this is what Google has to say

For me , I can never define memory, they are more like MOMENTS.

I always think memories create photos and not the other way round and even if you don’t have a photo you will still have that memory.

Many people distinguish memories between good memories and bad memories but according to me there is no such thing, you have that scenario in mind because it is important to you, it made an impact on you, it changed you some way or the other and there is a reason you remembered that moment.

Like your first pay check you remember everything  kisko gift diya, kitna kharcha hua, though it was over in first few days , you enjoyed every bit of it you lived that moment and you will remember all the details forever..

You also remember all the details when you were rejected by someone special , this is not a bad memory it thought you many things like never to give up, you have tried enough not to regret later.

You always smile while remembering your child hood be it getting beaten up by mom dad for doing their signature on the report card or coming first in the class.

For the matter of fact your first day at you very first job and the very first goof up..its a life time memory and lesson..

To understand this addiction in a better way you must watch the movie ‘INSIDE OUT’ and to understand it further meet me :P

GETTING ADDICTED TO MEMORIES IS A GOOD ADDICTION

TIME

Time addiction is rather a complex thing

It is rightly said TIME AND TIDE WAIT FOR MEN

That’s why beginnings like ‘ONCE UPON A TIME’, ‘THOSE WERE THE DAYS’ always intrigues us.

Example – Everyday you have to  catch 8:45 am train …so you push yourself to reach on time so you get the train and once you catch that train you get a kick like YESSSS !!!

Remember when you turned 20 and saw your first A rated movie you were shit scared but now you masturbate daily see things just got better post that  A rated movie.

Time also makes you restless but so do drugs..restless as in you are waiting for something or things are not happening on time , the duration of the process is making you restless.

Like waiting for exam results, waiting for a YES /approval, waiting for someone, waiting for your birthday , or a weekend etc…and when it arrives you are completely submerged in to it!!

Remembering the time of your first breakup and thinking how stupid you were makes you laugh at your self..that is happiness and being happy is good ADDICTION

PLACE

I think place plays a major role in keeping everything together because you spend most of your time at a particular place, you get emotionally and physically attached to it

Koi jagah ka view aacha lagta hai, toh kise ka ambience, weather, nature, people, sasta daaru, etc. so ya ! we do take back many things from different places we visit.

Whenever you cross your school or college you have that nostalgic feeling, everything is just rushing through right from canteen food, watchmen, special balcony, your seat, tapri, cheap restaurant/bar near college etc.

You will always remember that place where you had first of everything like first time you went down on your knees for someone special, first date, breakup, the place where you drank first time and puked .

If you have shifted your house… old house will always hold the special place in your heart.

That first college/independent trip with your friends.

Most important memory is the first place you visited with your PARENTS..

Best thing about a place is that even if we haven’t visited a particular place but we wish to …we will start creating memories for the future.

For example – Everyone dreams of going to LEH-LADAKH on bike, many people went there and many of them are still planning to , those people already have started imagining the mountains , cooking and eating maggi, smoking, going to different places etc. so this imagination , this planning gives you the kick to keep dreaming of that particular place and trust me if your dream / will is strong enough your go to your dream destination at least once.

I have been to LEH –LADAKH more than once with friends . it was like a 3 hrs ride for us and every time we meet and sit together we made a note signed by every one of us saying “NEXT YEAR WE ALL ARE SURELY GOING TO LEH-LADAKH”

Here is the proof

                                                                                                                  

I always imagine my self going to different places and and writing somewhere  ‘ANKIT WAS HERE’ (like shawshank redemption)

So yaa there is more to explore, visit more places you will feel liberated!!!

PEOPLE

Addiction of people is the most happening and dangerous thing.

This person can be anyone your partner, friend, teacher , boss ,colleague anyone…

When you meet that person you feel everything is sorted…you miss their company. Its like you don’t want to meet them everyday but on special occasion and just that person..

You can fall back on that person , rely on them, abuse them , take them for granted, do anything.. you don’t feel like sharing them. Its like saying ‘I am addicted to you’/’mujhe tere aadat hogayi hai yaar  ’

This type of people grows on you, it is very difficult to understand, you feel like surrendering yourself but you don’t.  they can be male/female or both.

I have very few people in my life to whom I am addicted to both male and female and the feeling when you meet them is amazing better than any high and trust me you don’t want this hangover to go…

(Getting addicted to people is very delicate addiction as compared to other addiction  please handle them with care)

                                        

P.s – I can go on writing on these addiction as I am addicted to them and it’s a good addiction. And while writing this is I came to know that all these addiction are interconnected and have one thing in common and that is YOU everything starts and ends with YOU so handle yourself with care :)