AD-DIC-TION is a condition that results when a person
ingests a substance or engages in an activity that can be pleasurable but the
continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life
and responsibilities.
This is what google has to say
about ADDICTION.
In hindi addiction is called as
AADAT (singing ab toh aadat se hau mujko song in head).
Just for the record addiction is
also called as LATH in hindi (now you know whom to imagine)
Most of the times aadat/addiction/lath
is looked as something BAD.
I have heard people saying many
times ‘dude you are addicted to drugs’,
‘bhai tujhe daaru ke gandi aadat hogayee
hai’. ‘
It is always associated to things
which we are not suppose to do or should not do it.
But some addictions are different
these addictions are not related to things or habits but to MEMORIES, TIME, PLACE & PEOPLE.
And this is quiet involuntary and
unplanned, it’s like these addictions were waiting for you to get attached ,
but you realize the importance only at the later stage. These addictions are
very personal, private and situation oriented.
Sometimes you try to modify them
and sometimes you try to recreate it but nothing is able to replace the first
time experience and in the process you are getting more addicted to it.
I have read somewhere when we do
drugs our brain releases a certain type of chemical which give us the kick and
same chemical is released when you revisit a particular memory, think about
that time , remembering the place & missing that person…going through all
this also gives you high.
These are also therapeutic, it
will uplift your mood, make you feel happy and you will be smiling. These are
good for your health also .
So lets start:-
MEMORY
In psychology memory is the process
in which the information is encoded, stored and retrieved this is what Google
has to say
For me , I can never define
memory, they are more like MOMENTS.
I always think memories create
photos and not the other way round and even if you don’t have a photo you will
still have that memory.
Many people distinguish memories
between good memories and bad memories but according to me there is no such
thing, you have that scenario in mind because it is important to you, it made
an impact on you, it changed you some way or the other and there is a reason
you remembered that moment.
Like your first pay check you
remember everything kisko gift diya,
kitna kharcha hua, though it was over in first few days , you enjoyed every bit
of it you lived that moment and you will remember all the details forever..
You also remember all the details
when you were rejected by someone special , this is not a bad memory it thought
you many things like never to give up, you have tried enough not to regret
later.
You always smile while
remembering your child hood be it getting beaten up by mom dad for doing their
signature on the report card or coming first in the class.
For the matter of fact your first
day at you very first job and the very first goof up..its a life time memory and
lesson..
To understand this addiction in a better
way you must watch the movie ‘INSIDE OUT’ and to understand it further meet me
:P
GETTING ADDICTED TO MEMORIES IS A GOOD ADDICTION
TIME
Time addiction is rather a
complex thing
It is rightly said TIME AND TIDE
WAIT FOR MEN
That’s why beginnings like ‘ONCE
UPON A TIME’, ‘THOSE WERE THE DAYS’ always intrigues us.
Example – Everyday you have
to catch 8:45 am train …so you push yourself
to reach on time so you get the train and once you catch that train you get a
kick like YESSSS !!!
Remember when you turned 20 and
saw your first A rated movie you were shit
scared but now you masturbate daily see things just got better post that A rated movie.
Time also makes you restless but
so do drugs..restless as in you are waiting for something or things are not
happening on time , the duration of the process is making you restless.
Like waiting for exam results,
waiting for a YES /approval, waiting for someone, waiting for your birthday ,
or a weekend etc…and when it arrives you are completely
Remembering the time of your
first breakup and thinking how stupid you were makes you laugh at your
self..that is happiness and being happy
is good ADDICTION
PLACE
I think place plays a major role
in keeping everything together because you spend most of your time at a
particular place, you get emotionally and physically attached to it
Koi jagah ka view aacha lagta
hai, toh kise ka ambience, weather, nature, people, sasta daaru, etc. so ya !
we do take back many things from different places we visit.
Whenever you cross your school or
college you have that nostalgic feeling, everything is just rushing through
right from canteen food, watchmen, special balcony, your seat, tapri, cheap
restaurant/bar near college etc.
You will always remember that
place where you had first of everything like first time you went down on your
knees for someone special, first date, breakup, the place where you drank first
time and puked .
If you have shifted your house…
old house will always hold the special place in your heart.
That first college/independent
trip with your friends.
Most important memory is the
first place you visited with your PARENTS..
Best thing about a place is that
even if we haven’t visited a particular place but we wish to …we will start
creating memories for the future.
For example – Everyone dreams of
going to LEH-LADAKH on bike, many people went there and many of them are still
planning to , those people already have started imagining the mountains ,
cooking and eating maggi, smoking, going to different places etc. so this
imagination , this planning gives you the kick to keep dreaming of that
particular place and trust me if your dream / will is strong enough your go to
your dream destination at least once.
I have
been to LEH –LADAKH more than once with friends . it was like a 3 hrs ride for
us and every time we meet and sit together we made a note signed by every one
of us saying “NEXT YEAR WE ALL ARE SURELY GOING TO LEH-LADAKH”
Here is the proof
I always imagine
my self going to different places and and writing somewhere ‘ANKIT WAS HERE’ (like shawshank redemption)
So yaa there is more to explore,
visit more places you will feel liberated!!!
PEOPLE
Addiction of people is the most
happening and dangerous thing.
This person can be anyone your
partner, friend, teacher , boss ,colleague anyone…
When you meet that person you
feel everything is sorted…you miss their company. Its like you don’t want to
meet them everyday but on special occasion and just that person..
You can fall back on that person
, rely on them, abuse them , take them for granted, do anything.. you don’t feel
like sharing them. Its like saying ‘I am addicted to you’/’mujhe tere aadat
hogayi hai yaar ’
This type of people grows on you,
it is very difficult to understand, you feel like surrendering yourself but you
don’t. they can be male/female or both.
I have very few people in my life
to whom I am addicted to both male and female and the feeling when you meet
them is amazing better than any high and trust me you don’t want this hangover
to go…
(Getting addicted to people is
very delicate addiction as compared to other addiction please handle them with care)
P.s – I can go on writing on
these addiction as I am addicted to them and it’s a good addiction. And while
writing this is I came to know that all these addiction are interconnected and
have one thing in common and that is YOU everything starts and ends with YOU so
handle yourself with care :)
